So curious about this: Do really guys find it hard to meet for the first time, their girlfriend’s parents..siblings..friends..plus the guy best friend?!
Courting rituals or ”pamamanhikan” is still very much alive here in the Philippines most especially on the province. Compare before, wherein our male ancestors had to do the “pag-iigib ng tubig or “pagsisibak ng kahoy” just to have the approval of the girl’s parents, suitors today have much easier and a burden free techniques, just bringing flowers to mom, being extra polite, knowing the stuffs that dad wants, and assure him (dad) to bring their daughter at 10PM on the dot (or else you’ll be going home with a black eye). But past or present…how do guys prepare for their first visit on their girlfriend’s house? hmmm..
Meeting the family…
Most of the guys still agree that when courting a girl, they are also courting the family, ’coz it’s a sign of “pakikisama” and showing how sincere they are with their intentions to the girl. It can also help the parents to get to know more about the guy and vice versa.
Courting rituals or ”pamamanhikan” is still very much alive here in the Philippines most especially on the province. Compare before, wherein our male ancestors had to do the “pag-iigib ng tubig or “pagsisibak ng kahoy” just to have the approval of the girl’s parents, suitors today have much easier and a burden free techniques, just bringing flowers to mom, being extra polite, knowing the stuffs that dad wants, and assure him (dad) to bring their daughter at 10PM on the dot (or else you’ll be going home with a black eye). But past or present…how do guys prepare for their first visit on their girlfriend’s house? hmmm..
Meeting the family…
Most of the guys still agree that when courting a girl, they are also courting the family, ’coz it’s a sign of “pakikisama” and showing how sincere they are with their intentions to the girl. It can also help the parents to get to know more about the guy and vice versa.
Heads up: guys..be sure to be honest as you are, don’t always play so nice or always agree or say “its ok,” …like for example, the mom prepares food which you don’t really like or you don’t even eat that at all, but you pretend you like it..that’s a NO NO..you must be polite enough to say that “I don’t eat this”, so the next time you visit, the family will prepare food that you could eat.
A guy said, build rapport…be kind to the eldest aunt up to the youngest aunt…mingle with the siblings in that way the family will able to see that you are really serious with the girl.
Going out with her friends…and a guy best friend…
Some get along easily with their girlfriend’s “tropa”, some are not…but it really depends on how the guy would react and welcome that set of friends of his girl. At first, it is acceptable that guys are aloof meeting the friends…’coz it like you’re getting a perfect timing or thinking of a good joke to crack…”cyempre like mo ‘magpa-good shoot’ eh..” ( eh we girls pa naman, likes to ask what our best friend’s opinion, if you are ok with them…hehehe…lagot!!)
Guy best friend…hmmm..it’s like a threaten to the guy (boyfriend)…especially if the guy best friend courts his girl on the past…or the guy best friend likes the girl too…tsk..tsk..tsk …but not all guy best friends are like that huh…be calm as possible as you can..un lang the guy act sort of like a body guard to his girlfriend…like as if he can build barriers…am I right guys? I can’t blame you for that…
Remember this…it is not really important to impress the family, siblings or the friends…the important is to show really who you are…’coz if it’s not…your like wearing a mask…you pretend…and that could come up or it may result into unhealthy relationship…guys…always remember that the girl really loves you if she can accept the whole thing and all true or negative about you..be good to your girlfriends!!!
Heads up: how to build rapport? Research..dig down into that person’s interest..if the brother is into gadgets or a tech buff…be sure that you’re updated with that…that starts the conversation…
Going out with her friends…and a guy best friend…
Some get along easily with their girlfriend’s “tropa”, some are not…but it really depends on how the guy would react and welcome that set of friends of his girl. At first, it is acceptable that guys are aloof meeting the friends…’coz it like you’re getting a perfect timing or thinking of a good joke to crack…”cyempre like mo ‘magpa-good shoot’ eh..” ( eh we girls pa naman, likes to ask what our best friend’s opinion, if you are ok with them…hehehe…lagot!!)
Guy best friend…hmmm..it’s like a threaten to the guy (boyfriend)…especially if the guy best friend courts his girl on the past…or the guy best friend likes the girl too…tsk..tsk..tsk …but not all guy best friends are like that huh…be calm as possible as you can..un lang the guy act sort of like a body guard to his girlfriend…like as if he can build barriers…am I right guys? I can’t blame you for that…
Remember this…it is not really important to impress the family, siblings or the friends…the important is to show really who you are…’coz if it’s not…your like wearing a mask…you pretend…and that could come up or it may result into unhealthy relationship…guys…always remember that the girl really loves you if she can accept the whole thing and all true or negative about you..be good to your girlfriends!!!
waaaa, i always show them that Im nice, and eat the food a bit even if I dont like what they've served.
ReplyDelete@emben..
ReplyDeleteit's ok to atleast give it a try...but for me it is more appreciated and more practical if the girlfriend help her boyfriend out on those situations...i mean, if the girl knows that her bf don't eat this and that...maybe she can give hint or suggest what foods to be serve...then later it is much easier to tell the family.."my bf kc don't eat this or that...kya emben...hanap ka ng gnun...someone who will stand by your side always...hehehe...
eheheheh, what if they said na "ang arte naman ng lalaking to" ehehehe
ReplyDelete@emben..
ReplyDeletekesa naman forever ka mag pretend di ba? pag like ka nila kahit maarte ka pa okei lang..if not hahanapan ka talaga nila ng mga mistakes 'coz they don't like you to be their daughter's boyfriend...un lang un...heheheh...ska khit pa ayaw nila basta the girl will fight for you...okei po un...