heads up guys!!

So curious about this: Do really guys find it hard to meet for the first time, their girlfriend’s parents..siblings..friends..plus the guy best friend?!

Courting rituals or ”pamamanhikan” is still very much alive here in the Philippines most especially on the province. Compare before, wherein our male ancestors had to do the “pag-iigib ng tubig or “pagsisibak ng kahoy” just to have the approval of the girl’s parents, suitors today have much easier and a burden free techniques, just bringing flowers to mom, being extra polite, knowing the stuffs that dad wants, and assure him (dad) to bring their daughter at 10PM on the dot (or else you’ll be going home with a black eye). But past or present…how do guys prepare for their first visit on their girlfriend’s house? hmmm..

Meeting the family…
Most of the guys still agree that when courting a girl, they are also courting the family, ’coz it’s a sign of “pakikisama” and showing how sincere they are with their intentions to the girl. It can also help the parents to get to know more about the guy and vice versa.

Heads up: guys..be sure to be honest as you are, don’t always play so nice or always agree or say “its ok,” …like for example, the mom prepares food which you don’t really like or you don’t even eat that at all, but you pretend you like it..that’s a NO NO..you must be polite enough to say that “I don’t eat this”, so the next time you visit, the family will prepare food that you could eat.

A guy said, build rapport…be kind to the eldest aunt up to the youngest aunt…mingle with the siblings in that way the family will able to see that you are really serious with the girl.

Heads up: how to build rapport? Research..dig down into that person’s interest..if the brother is into gadgets or a tech buff…be sure that you’re updated with that…that starts the conversation…

Going out with her friends…and a guy best friend…
Some get along easily with their girlfriend’s “tropa”, some are not…but it really depends on how the guy would react and welcome that set of friends of his girl. At first, it is acceptable that guys are aloof meeting the friends…’coz it like you’re getting a perfect timing or thinking of a good joke to crack…”cyempre like mo ‘magpa-good shoot’ eh..” ( eh we girls pa naman, likes to ask what our best friend’s opinion, if you are ok with them…hehehe…lagot!!)

Guy best friend…hmmm..it’s like a threaten to the guy (boyfriend)…especially if the guy best friend courts his girl on the past…or the guy best friend likes the girl too…tsk..tsk..tsk …but not all guy best friends are like that huh…be calm as possible as you can..un lang the guy act sort of like a body guard to his girlfriend…like as if he can build barriers…am I right guys? I can’t blame you for that…

Remember this…it is not really important to impress the family, siblings or the friends…the important is to show really who you are…’coz if it’s not…your like wearing a mask…you pretend…and that could come up or it may result into unhealthy relationship…guys…always remember that the girl really loves you if she can accept the whole thing and all true or negative about you..be good to your girlfriends!!!

I’m a SpongeBob SquarePants fanatic…

SpongeBob SquarePants don’t get my attention the first time I saw it on t.v. ‘coz I don’t like the characters appearance. I mean I don’t like the way it has been illustrated. I usually enjoy and go for anime which is almost perfect in terms of graphics and illustrations of each character. But my cousins really love that program. The ending is, they influenced me and so I got hooked up.

At first, Patrick is my favorite character, because he is “pink” literally colored pink. But as I watch the cartoons I’m starting to enjoy how SpongeBob portrays funny and wackiest character I ever saw in cartoons. I never stop laughing when watching him and Patrick crack their lines.

One day at the office the topic about SpongeBob was brought up during our lunch break. A colleague of mine told us, “I don’t allow my kids to watch SpongeBob , ‘coz they might become idiot and lazy.” ("Kabobohan lang matutuhan nila dun"), she said. I can’t blame her ‘coz most of the episodes depict oddity. But in fairness to the program there’s a lesson to be learned at the end and I wanted to commend them for that. SpongeBob and other characters realize the mistakes they commit and always try their best to correct it. That is important in every program aired in t.v. target kids as audience.

I want to encourage parents to spare some time in accompanying their children when watching t.v. So they can teach them the good things to be picked up and bad things not to follow ‘coz in that way the children will understand what is going on and what is the moral lesson of the episodes.